One of the biggest anxieties that people in relationships have is that their significant other will cheat on them. People cheat for a variety of reasons instead of confronting a problem in a relationship head-on – such as their partner’s lack of sexual prowess.
Now, one man who used an app to catch his cheating wife is facing up to 15 years behind bars for his actions.
These days, it’s easier than ever to keep tabs on your partner online. With only a few clicks, you can see whose photographs and statuses they are liking on social media, and, if they’re careless enough to leave their phone lying around, their text messages.
But there’s one app which allows people to keep an even closer eye on their partners – Find My iPhone. It was designed to help iPhone users locate their phone in the event of it being lost or stolen, but some people have given it a more invasive purpose – stalking their partner.
Obviously, it doesn’t bode well if you’re insecure enough in your relationship to use Find My iPhone to keep tabs on your partner, but cheating is a difficult thing to deal with, and, aside from catching your partner in the act, there are limited ways of confirming that it’s happening.
But, until now, few people realized that resorting to such desperate measures could land them in jail.
Sean Donis from New Jersey had suspected that his wife, Nancy, had been cheating on him for some time and, desperate to find out the truth, he used his wife’s iPad to check her location when she said that she was going out to dinner with friends.
It was then that he discovered that his wife was, in fact, at her employer Albert Lopez’s home.
To make matters worse, Nancy had left Dennis in charge of their five-year-old child while she engaged in the affair.
Furious, Dennis decided to travel to Lopez’s home so that he could catch his wife in the act. It was at this point that his actions became more questionable, and instead of simply waiting nearby for his wife to leave the house, he broke into it.
After entering the building, Dennis recorded his wife and Lopez naked, and in the footage, he can be heard saying, “All on video! Both of you motherfuckers are fired tomorrow.” He then threatened to send the footage to his wife’s relatives, something he reportedly did.
“The defendant should be given a medal for the amount of restraint he showed when he entered that scene,” Mr. Donis’ lawyer, Howard Greenberg, told the jury.
“He commits a trespass that in a sane jurisdiction is a violation and not a crime, and he uncovers the greater evil of his wife screwing some stranger. No jury is going to convict this man of anything, let alone a felony.”
During the trial, Dennis was reprimanded by the judge by referring to his wife’s actions as “banging”.
“Did you even think what effect the defendant finding out about you two would have on their child?” Greenberg asked Lopez, and he answered yes when he was questioned, “but you banged her anyway?”
“Did you take advantage of your position as his wife’s superior to get her into bed with you?” Greenberg continued, adding, “who the hell are you to sleep with another man’s wife?
“It was never discussed because he was out of the picture as far as I was concerned,” Lopez said.
Dennis and Nancy have subsequently divorced since the incident, which took place in April 2016. However, the court has yet to decide whether or not Dennis will serve time for his actions. He faces a maximum penalty of up to 15 years.
But apps like Find My iPhone are not the only way that people can accuse their partner of cheating. Earlier this month, a new way of cheating made its way into people’s consciousness. It’s called “micro-cheating” and it’s something that many people could be guilty of.
Miro-cheating involves inappropriate communication with another person online and it’s not as extreme as you might think it is.
While most people would have a problem with discovering their partner has been sexting another person or sending them explicit photographs, micro-cheating can be as simple as ‘liking’ an ex’s photograph on Instagram or sending someone inappropriate emojis.
The fact that micro-cheating can involve such seemingly innocent acts has caused a lot of controversy.
Twitter user @scumbelievable wrote, “I just learned about ‘micro-cheating’ and I want to have an intervention for straight people and explain to them what ‘having friends’ is.”
Another Twitter user @travelbear92 added, “I don’t understand what people don’t understand about this #Microcheating trend. It isn’t about not having friends outside your relationship… It’s about behaving inappropriately with those friends that you wouldn’t want your partner to know about. That’s what the definition is.”
The term micro-cheating exploded into use during the first week of 2018 because of a viral Thought Catalog article highlighting “33 Signs Your Boyfriend Is Micro-cheating”. However, we doubt that the majority of them apply to most monogamous couples.
Although Nancy did a lot more than micro-cheat on Dennis, and his use of Find My iPhone to track her location is questionable, he should have approached the problem differently instead of breaking an entering and recording and supposedly distributing footage of his wife naked without her consent.