Although most parents would consider their kids a blessing, raising children is not without its struggles.
It is especially difficult to decide the right way to control your kids’ behavior when it ventures into unruly territories. And that’s because, in today’s world of multiple parenting styles, you will always be judged by the majority if you lean towards more physical forms of punishment.
Recently, Kelly Clarkson has been on the receiving end of this criticism regarding her supposedly outdated parenting methods.
American Idol star has always been open about the relationship she has with her three-year-old daughter River Rose and her one-year-old son Remington Alexander.
And Clarkson is constantly posting adorable pictures of her little ones on Instagram. Plus she willingly shares with the world anecdotes related to her style of parenting.
However, now she has been especially candid and has revealed that she spanks her kids. And this is in spite of the fact that experts on child development (including American Academy of Pediatrics) vehemently discourage spanking or “other physical punishments”.
In an interview with Radio.com, Clarkson explained her views on spanking her kids as a means of disciplining them. “I’m not above a spanking, which people aren’t necessarily into. And I don’t mean like hitting her hard, I just mean a spanking,” she said. “My parents spanked me, I did fine in life and I feel fine about it. But I do that as well, too.”
Take a listen to the very honest and revealing radio interview in the video below:
The ‘Breakaway’ singer also explained that when she does spank her daughter, it’s never totally out of the blue. “I warn her, I’m like, ‘Hi, I’m gonna spank you on your bottom if you don’t stop right now. Like, this is ridiculous.'”
However, while she very much believes in a parent’s right to spank their kids, she does feel a lot more hesitant about doing so when she’s in public.
“So that’s a tricky thing when you’re out in public, ’cause then people are like, you know, they think that’s wrong or something, but I find nothing wrong with a spanking.”
The Grammy award-winning musician believes that her strict Southern upbringing is responsible for her outlook on disciplining children.
“I’m from the South, y’all, so we get spankings. My mom would call the principal if I ever ended up in the principal’s office and give permission for her to spank me,” she explained. “I’m a well-rounded individual with a lot of character, so I think it’s fine.”
As with most controversial remarks uttered by high-profile figures, Clarkson’s comments attracted a lot of criticism on Twitter.
“I don’t fault previous generations for spanking,” Evie Harris tweeted. “They were using the parenting advice they had at the time. But if you choose to spank now, you are choosing something that is proven to be detrimental to kids. ‘When you know better, you do better”.
Evie Harris might be onto something. In fact, recent research has supported the idea that children who are regularly spanked by their parents are more likely to grow up to be “abusive”.
The researchers studied a group of young adults and found that there was a strong correlation between being struck as a child and physical violence in their future relationships.
The lead writer of the study, Jeff Temple, a psychiatry professor at the University of Texas Medical Branch said that “Regardless of whether someone experienced child abuse or not, spanking alone was predictive of dating violence.”
Alarmingly, this means that while children may not have experienced what we typically see as “child abuse”, if they had been spanked they would eventually come to the conclusion that physical violence is the only solution to a conflict.
Of course, cases do vary greatly and while in some instances, spanking may have impacted a child in a negative way, in other cases they would have had a beneficial effect on the child.