Relationships are hard work, especially in the modern world where you are never more than a few clicks away from a new potential bae. As a result, social media and dating apps present a host of potential problems for even the strongest of couples.
That’s why it’s important to be aware of how the dating in the digital age works, and what red flags you should be looking out for when it comes to your partner’s phone. The world’s got one too many f*ckpeople in it and you don’t want to date one of them.
Check out the video below to discover some important red flags in a new relationship:
Once the honeymoon phase is over, and you and your new bae have gotten comfortable with each other, you’ll delete Tinder and stop dating other people. But sometimes people can be sly and you need to be eagle-eyed enough to know when it’s happening.
Here are eight red flags that you should never ignore when it comes to your partner’s phone…
1. Their inbox is always empty
If your partner is comfortable enough to let you use your phone, but their inbox is always mysteriously empty, then it’s a glaring red flag that they have recently deleted all of their messages because there was some messages on their phone that they didn’t want you to see.
2. Your partner won’t give you their password
While I’m not condoning giving your partner giving you absolute access to everything in their life (we’ve all got the odd WhatsApp chat that we want to remain private), if your phone is dead and they won’t give you the code to borrow theirs, it’s a sign that something is up.
3. They get notifications from dating apps
Sure, they might tell you that they’re not on Tinder anymore, but if they haven’t deleted the app yet, it’s a sign that they aren’t completely invested in you. And let’s face it, no one wants to be seriously dating somebody who is still keeping their options open.
4. They always take calls in private
There’s really no excuse for this one. Even if they’re having an awkward chat with their mom, they should be comfortable enough to have it in front of you. Otherwise, they’ve got someone on the other end of the line who you probably wouldn’t want them talking to – like an ex.
5. They’re glued to their phone
This is a red flag for two reasons. Firstly, if you’re dating someone, they should have the common courtesy to put their phone down when spending time with you, and, secondly, it could be permanently glued to their hand because they’ve got something fishy to hide.
6. They’ve got a suspicious background picture
You can tell a lot about a person from their phone’s background picture. If you’re dating a girl and she claims that the relationship she has with her male best friend is strictly platonic, but he’s in her background picture, it could be a real red flag. That place is reserved for those we really love.
7. They want to know where you are
I know this sounds insane, but I once had a friend whose girlfriend insisted that he kept “Find My iPhone” activated at all times. Anyone who behaves like this has serious trust issues, and it’s a good idea to get out before it’s too late. No one wants a controlling partner.
8. Your partner kicks off if you touch their phone
We’ve all been there – you hand your phone to someone to show them a picture and then they start scrolling and see something that wasn’t intended for them. That, or a family member picks it up and you cringe as you know fine well that a sext is going to flash up on your lock screen. So obviously if your partner freaks out, jumps, or does anything else that’s off when you touch their phone, it’s a red flag.
Relationships are built on communication and trust. Unless you are looking to have a very casual fling with someone, it’s important to know that they are fully committed to you, so if you see any of these red flags on your partner’s phone, confront them and/or move on.
After all, life’s too short for f*ckpeople.