It might be tempting to think of sexuality as a binary or ternary definition; you’re either into men, into women, or both. The truth is though, that human sexuality is on a spectrum; you might be into women one day and men the other. Even if you’re a heterosexual man and comfortable with your sexuality, there might be a point in your life where you wonder: what if you’re into men as well?
To answer this rather interesting question, Buzzfeed sought out straight men in their community who, to paraphrase Katy Perry, kissed a man and liked it. These guys are all straight, but at one point in their lives, they decided to change things up, and for one reason or another, had a pretty great sexual experience with another man. All these men went back to women thereafter, but they all learned something about themselves in the process. Maybe by reading about their experiences, you can too.
The following stories contain material of an explicit sexual nature
1. Finding some leeway for a threeway
“A guy once gave me his number out of the blue at a restaurant. A few weeks later I was bored and horny (and a little stoned) so I called him. He invited me over to his place to watch porn with him and his roommate. It wasn’t long before we were all in bed having a threesome. I’m happily married to a woman now, but I’m glad I did that back then. It was fun and it felt good. You don’t have to be gay to enjoy playing with a d**k at some point!”
2. This gentleman found some clarity in a weird place
“I was in a weird place after a messy breakup with a long-term girlfriend when I was about 24. I don’t really know how or why I started, but I began watching and getting off to gay porn. The thing is, outside of watching porn, I don’t find men attractive at all. I have never checked out or noticed another man in a real-life situation, but I can completely fantasize about it if I’m watching gay porn.
So after a few months of regularly getting off to gay porn I decided to seek out an opportunity to experiment and met with a guy in a parking lot of a local store. We went for a short drive and talked for a few minutes and I started backing out so he took me back to my car. We pulled up beside my car and he gave a last shot at keeping things going and asked if I just wanted to try holding his d**k, and I agreed. He took it out and I started giving him a hand job, which lasted about a minute before I just went for it and started blowing him. I blew him for a few minutes in his car and then we decided I’d jump in my car and follow him back to his place just a few minutes away. We got to his house and I got back to sucking his d**k on his couch, and he got my shorts off and rubbed my d**k some while I blew him.
After a few minutes he wanted to switch and go down on me, that’s when everything sort of hit. He was really excited to blow me, but I wasn’t the least bit hard and nothing he was doing was making it happen. I was just over it at this point — told him I was sorry but I needed to go, and bailed quickly. I felt bad ditching the guy. He seemed nice enough, but I had my moment of experimentation and realized it wasn’t what I was into.”
3. If he’s a great guy, then why not give it a go?
“I met a friend of a friend who was somehow into me. I was single and 23 at the time and selfishly thought, ‘Welp, somebody thinks you’re funny and attractive, you’d totally do Chris Hemsworth, why not give it a go?’ He was a super great guy, we had a lot in common and enjoyed each other’s company, and we unofficially dated for about a month or two. Fooling around with him was fun, but when it came down to actual *sex* sex (I’d top and he’d bottom), I wasn’t as nearly attracted to it as I am with women. I distanced myself without officially breaking up, and I never heard from him again.”
4. Ulterior motives turned genuine
“I was at a typical high school party in sophomore year and my best friend Matt and I were egging on some girls to make out. They told us that we have to first if we want them to, so being close bros and all, we started to make out. More girls started looking and were actually getting quite turned on so we started getting more into it because we knew if we give it our all we’ll get something better after. The reward afterwards was totally worth it!
“We’re still the best of friends, and I’m still straight but he’s bi (not sure if it’s something he realized after this event and I don’t want to ask). We just laugh it off as a good story now.”
5. Whiskey is truly an ice-breaker
“My first hookup with a guy was a few years ago with a guy I met on Whisper. I’d been curious for a while before this happened. He identifies as gay. We drank some whiskey and one thing led to another and we ended up sucking each other’s d**ks and making out for a while.“
(26/Male/Identify as straight)