When it comes to the topic of “turning women on”, there are obvious sexual turn-ons, such as some well-executed foreplay, and then there are the turn-ons that happen outside of the bedroom.
In fact, as it turns out, if you want to get a woman’s heart pounding in pure lust and excitement, everyday activities like cooking and driving stick shift are your best bet.
Here are eight non-physical turn-ons women look for in a man:
It’s true! In a popular Reddit thread called “Women of Reddit, what do men do that’s attractive, that men don’t know about?”, hundreds of women went into detail about their number one nonsexual turn-ons.
So without further ado, here 14 pretty basic things you can do to make your girl want to rip clothes your clothes off.
1. When they cook
“I f**king LOVE watching my boyfriend cook. I can stand there and watch him all day long. He’s bustling around, chopping veggies and putting dry rub on meats and stirring things around in a pan, all confident and sure-like. “He thinks he’s just making dinner.
What he doesn’t know is that by the time the meal is ready, after watching him be so competent and unself-conscious and focused on making the food, I want to rip his clothes off and have my way with him first, and eat dinner later.” – projectedwinner
2. When they drive safely
“I find it hot when a guy drives calmly and safely. Too many times I’ve driven with guys that drive aggressively, speed, and try to show off; it is so comforting feeling like this guy that’s driving me actually gives a shit about me and my safety; I think it shows good character.” – insteadofessays
3. When they roll up buttons to their elbows
“Roll up button-ups to their elbows. “Bless.” – MichaelPraetorius
4. When they talk about something they care about
“Speaking passionately about pretty much anything. When my significant other talks excitedly about anything he cares about, even if it isn’t really one of my interests, it is insanely attractive to me.” – Sea_Potato
5. When they keep their nails short
“Keep their nails short.” – Lion_on_the_floor
6. When they concentrate on something
“Really concentrating on something, I love the look a guy has on his face when he is trying to figure something out. I don’t know why…” – Cannibalqueen15
7. When they laugh and scratch out of nervousness
“That sexy quiet laugh while scratching the back of their head when they feel slightly nervous or awkward. *swoon*” – SugarTits1
8. When he places his hand on her back
“Hand in the middle of the back when walking with/directing a girl.” – robbieeeeee
9. When he sighs and stares while smiling
“Sigh and stare at you while smiling. Gahhhh.” – Deleted user
10. When he makes her feel protected
“I’ve had many a partner comment about my insistence on walking on the outside (toward the street) when walking together. It’s not a big thing, but it does offer protection and it’s noticed and appreciated.” – CassandraVindicated
11. When he has a paternal instinct
“Being paternal. Nothing gets me going like when they see a kid and instinctively go into the mode.” – tgoks
12. When he’s good with his hands
“Men being handy…mmph. Every time I see my guy talking about how he’s just gonna fix this with x, y, and z tools in this way gets me. And how he’s so focused on that when he’s doing it is THE biggest turn on…for me at least. Swoon!” – nattacino
13. When a guy looks at you when talking to you
“Giving eye contact when talking to you. Especially when there’s a bunch of pretty girls around.” – rockies2626
14. When a guy drives stick shift
“A guy actually driving using the clutch and working through the gears – listening to the engine and knowing when it gets to a certain sound/revs then you change up/down. Love it.” – mixed-metaphor
So there you go: women aren’t as complicated as they’re made out to be. Perhaps you previously thought turning a woman on was this massive task, but the truth is, you might be getting your girl all hot and bothered without even realizing it.